Friend help?

ok one of my best guy friends is dating this girl and he has been going out with her for only about 2 weeks. Last weekend she was supposed to go out with him and see a movie but ';had to go to her cuzins b-day party'; but she told me she had a lot of friends at her house that night....so how does that make sense? then tonight i saw on a bulliten on myspace from her friend saying the 3 of them were going to the movies so i figure she is gunna invite her BF. Well again she blows him off because i saw her at the ice skating rink. But the worst part is she was letting boys flirt with her and flirting BACK!!! i dont know what to tell my friend cuz i dont want to hurt him. Also i dont want him to think im trying to break them up because he knows i dont like her and he might think i still like him because i went out with him before he went out with her but thats not true. I just hate to see that sl*t treat him like that because he is my best friend. what do i do? what should i say to him? HELP!Friend help?
clearly you are frustrated because you care a lot about your friend and it hurts to see him being treated that way. the best thing you could do, in my opinion, is try to set up a heart-to-heart talk with him. then, when you feel the timing is right, go ahead and tell him what you found out. i know it will be very hard on your part cause you worry a lot because he might think you were just trying to break them apart. sometimes the truth is the hardest to believe that is why it is almost always easier to lie... and even better not to tell... right?

now, here's the big question... if you answer this. it would help you realize what you should do...

which among these option would you rather bear?

(a) see your friend devastated and broken hearted when he was the one who found out the girl's real color because you chose to keep what you found out away from him to avoid being mistaken for a girl attracted to him trying to keep them apart...

or...

(b) endure whatever consequence your telling him the truth about the girl of his dreams may lead to (either good or bad), and help make him realize the truth... he may get mad at you at some point but,,, later on he would realize that you played the part of a good friend...



in the end it will be up to you... whatever your decision will be... stick to it and take responsibility for the consequences...



hope i helped somehow... and good luck...Friend help?
no problem... i'm happy to hear that you are doing fine now... i'm really glad i have helped...

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u should tell him bcuz the further u hold bck the more hurt he will get when he finds out bout dis and u knew bout it and didnt tell him!!! dats wat i think...hope dat was helpful!!! %26lt;3
find you something else to concern yourself with. Don't be the busy body you will end up losing friends.
Been there and surely done that. With matters like this it can be hard. You want to help your friend without upsetting him. However most of the time they will not listen to anyone. They must realize it themselves. The next time she blows him off, if you see her, simply tell him the next day that ';man i went up to (a place) last night. I ran into (her name) '; or tell him that you went to the Ice Rink and saw her there. Don't tell him that she was flirting just tell him that she was there talking to a bunch of guys. That way you're being informative without seeming like you want them to break up.
you really have to tell and if you can't

well ask a friend to tell him
I wouldn't tell him right away. I would kind oh hint out that your girlfriends a tramp without going over the top. But yeah eventually your going to have to tell him. Its just what friends do they tell you stuff even when you don't want to hear it. So be a good friend tell him ad get it over with because eventually he is going to find out. And I would be pissed if my friends knew my bf is a ho and didn't tell me