How do i not feel bad about being ';unpopular';?

im in this class and its all popular people not even joking. i feel like such a loser. . all the popular boys flirt with popular girls and it makes me feel bad that im not popular. it makes me feel like, ';whats wrong with me? Why dont boys like me? Why dont they want to be my friend? why are they so much better than me?';How do i not feel bad about being ';unpopular';?
I bet all the other girls are fake and snobby. I bet they puts tons of makeup on and wear everything name brand and have mommy and daddy do everything right? Girl don't worry you'll be out of school one day and you'll never see these people again. You won't need them for nothing. Just focus in school. Meet friends outside of school and just hang out with them. How about going to a youth group at church and make friends? Just go to school and learn. Don't let them make you feel bad about yourself it's there lost. When i was in high school I felt the same. What's funny now people see all wanna talk to me meanwhile in school they didn't give me a second look. Stop making yourself feel bad. Would you really want friends like this and hang with people like this?


Good luck hun


ps your better then that


Good luck hunHow do i not feel bad about being ';unpopular';?
Note how they're douches, and you're not. You'll magically feel much better.





They're not better than you, they're just under the impression that they are, and the attitude that you have fuels that.





These guys are just looking to have sex with the girls. Have you ever met a very popular girl around that age who is smart, truly funny, actually interesting? Noooo... And the guys don't think they are, either.





Who cares, you are better, you just don't realize it yet.
Your not a Loser, Just be your self, You don't have to be Popular to have fun or Be normal. Listen, Im 13. Im not Popular or Un popular. All i do is sit and play Guitar. Guitar is my life, Just make some friends and speak to People :). It's what i did. It worked :)





And theres nothing wrong with you. :)





Just be yourself :)





And Wilson is Right about the Douches part. They must be Douches if they are all Popular and all think they are ';Big-Up';








Your better than all of them because your yourself!
I don't know how NOT to feel bad to not being popular. But this is how it was when I was in school at least from grade school to middle school. Once you get in high school its a different thing. Its more like different groups: the preps, athletes, band people, drill team , and so on. Its not that big of a deal because seriously this is basically the popular peoples time to shine. Most of them continue to try to hang onto that when they are grown up and it doesnt work. They become big old losers who are still living in their young days glory. So I would advise you to just find a group of people that you life and that are your true friend and stick with them. Why would you want to be with people who don't care about you at all?? Just hang in there and don't let the petty stuff get to you. Your so young %26amp; have alot of other things in life to look forward to.
I am sorry for this situation you are in. Can u begin to make friends with someone in the room. Just one of them and see if that begins to build a bridge. I hope so. And remember this situation so maybe some day u can help someone who feels the same way you are feelingg right now. Maybe u will become a teacher because of this situation.
If boys don't flirt with you, that doesn't make you a loser or unpopular. What if they only flirt with popular girls? What happens if the popular girls are not popular anymore? Are you really better if there are many boys flirting with you? I don't really think so.





It's all in your head, dear. There are more important problems to think about... like your studies. =)
I've been in that position before. You'll realize how dumb all those people are, and all you can do is make fun of them in your head and then go and tell your friends the dumb things they say and do. That's how I coped with it. It turned out to be my favorite class. Also, if you make friends with the teacher, most likely, they will also be making fun of those ';popular'; students in their head, and you and your teacher can make fun of them together. If you put yourself above those people, you'll definitely feel better because in reality, they aren't better than you.
nothings is wrong with u! those girls aren't better than u! if u want to make friends first start with small conversation once in a while with students that are sitting close enough to you or ask a question or find something u have in common with some of those girls! if it works let me know :) !!





eventually you'll start to amke new friends and meet thier friends etc.. and then people will get to know the great person that you truly are and this little issue will be a thing of the past!
Guys are attracted to confident girls, so stop being self-concious, but remember to not be cocky or overconfident because that is also a turn off.





To be confident, smile a lot and be friendly first of all and secondly, act as though everyone were your equal, and when this grows tough for certain people, look at your advantages over them and remind yourself that they are no better than you in the long run.
its their frame of mind more than anything. have you ever gone somewhere with your friends and they brought someone along and you thought you were better than them? for some reason you size them up and make a decision right then and there. if someone else thinks differently then it CAN have an effect on the entire group's First notions, but your image won't change until that happens. so work on one person and then the rest will probably change over too. I'm guessing you may just not be the most confident person around them because you've already ';placed'; yourself beneath them. In which case, you should try to forget this and talk to them like ordinary people on your level (not lower if you want to run WITH them). so how do you do this? whne you've done something particularly amazing, walk into class holding onto that thought. what you just did makes you cool. then try striking up a conversation with someone. smile and laugh at them, tell them what you just did. then later, as if you can be in their group for something or other. THEN, begin to have casual conversation on stuff other than the class work. it shouldn't be too hard unless they are straight up SNOBS. in this case, they are obviously not worth being with, so I'd just try to make friends elsewhere. and when you're with your other friends, have a genuinely good time so that you don't feel like you're missing out on anything. because then you won't be. :)
don't feel bad.... i used to be like tht last year... the peoples in my class ignored me and i asked the same questions u did... but u kno what i did???... i approached some of them and introduced myself... i kno its kinda something ur parents would say but i tried it... sure i got some negative responses but i didn't let tht hurt me like it did a few years back... on the plus side i got some positive ones too.... i made friends with some guys and a few girls.... and by the end of the year we were all crying about how we're gonna miss each other and laughing about the past year we've been together... if it doesn't work this year then just hold ur head high and there will always be next year.... this year is starting off really good for me.... the majority of my class are my friends and tht we try to make each other laugh in the middle of class.... more words of advice... i would stick to finding true friends and not the most popular people.... sometimes the most popular people can be jerks.... and of course all people have different opinions.... if a person doesn't like u just shrug it off.... eventually u will find ur real friends... hope this helps!...
haha i love this question





ok, so all thru middle school i was super unpopular, everyone hated me, i had to sit by myself at lunch and got made fun of all the time, and i even started ditching school just cuz it hurt me so bad





then in high school, i actually started becoming popular!! i was like, woa haha. and then i started realizing that, these are not the kind of people i want to be friends with. all that stuff they do to look cool.....well thats the only reason they do it. to look cool. haha i was like, how lame.





also theres no such thing as friendship in the popular kid world. people stab eachother in the back, spread rumors, cheat on their boyfriends/girlfriends etc etc ON PURPOSE, just so people will talk about them. this one girl i knew acted like a whore on purpose just for the attention





so basically i got over that, and now i hate popular kids :) lol i stopped hanging out with them, and that was that. i know its probly not easy for you to just hear this without the experience, and idk if it even made you feel better at all.........but i just wanted you to know that your not missing any thing hahhaha
They aren't better than you.





Look at your friends. Do you guys have fun? Are you crazy about just being crazy? Because that's what makes my day at school.





After you stop worrying about who likes you, you begin to become ';okay'; with who you are. Then other people will notice that, boys won't think you're desperate and fake. You'll suddenly seem much more interesting than the popular kids. And you'll be much happier than them too, I guarantee it :]