Sunday, November 21, 2010

How can I talk to boys, and not flirt?

Every single friend I've ever had has said ';god charlotte, you're such a flirt!';. But I swear to god I never realise it! it's so frustrating to try and stop doing something that comes so naturally and you don't even realise your doing. I got in big trouble with my friends last year because I was supposidly 'flirting' with one of their boyfriends. They didn't talk to me for ages but after a while we all got back together. now when i'm with them and they talk to guys i'm just quiet because I don't know if they'll disown me again if they think i'm flirting with their crush. So is there any skill to NOT flirt?How can I talk to boys, and not flirt?
Flirting is an ego-booster for the one flirting. It's like you're wanting them to notice you and get the hots for you. So actually, flirting is a cover up for a lack of self confidence.How can I talk to boys, and not flirt?
The upside to this problem is that you're probably gorgeous and your friends are worried about you talking to their guys because of that. Be careful about the way you dress and how you present yourself. Don't wear things that are revealing, and try not to even touch your hair while you're looking at them or talking to them because that can easily be taken as flirting. Watch your facial expressions as well.
Minimize eye contact. When you make a lot of eye contact while talking to a guy that can seem flirty. Same goes for physical - don't brush up against him as that sends signals of flirtatious intent.
u dont have to touch on them at all. u dont have b eall on them. just treat them as their girls. matter fact ifu have to. in ur head tell urseld their gay so talk to them normal. and just pay attention to yourself...

i mean...

u just gotta b aware of urself
Don't smile and act all cheery when you talk to people.
do wut u want, their jelous. who cares if they dont talk 2 u. its not thier bf.
Talk to them as if they're your brother..
dont flirt or smile or show emotion.
WHAT THE HECK DO U SAY!?!?!?!?!?!?
Don't smile... learn to be cynical and mean... don't be yourself!!... sounds pretty silly hey
truth
hahaa this is a unique question!



but honestly ive delt with the same problem---maybe not to your extent though... this is going to sound corny, but here it goes: if you put your mind to it, theres nothing that can hold you back from achieving it!



just be extreamly concience of your body language. do you automatically kick one leg up and lean against the wall or lockers when you talk to guys? do you stand closer to them than other girls usually would? do you play around with their hair, etc...??



ask your friends what you do that is so ';flirtatious'; and hold that feature back when your talking to cirtain guys!



i hope this helped at all and good luck!
Hi Charlotte! Its SALLY%26lt;3! I read your problem and I think that I can help you out!!!



1- make sure that your friends understand that you are your own self and you should be able to live free and do whatever YOU want. It is none of their business if you like or even if you don't like a boy but just want to talk.



2- find a common interest...ask him if he likes certain things. It will help a lot.



3- if it isn't going well, find someone else to talk to.



4- if it is going well, ask him to get together sometime...not as a date unless you like him or unless he asks you first.



5- make sure that you really want to go through with it.



6- hopefully you can become friends or even a COUPLE!!! ahhh how cute!!! jk!



HOPE IT WORKS!!! GOOD LUCK AND BEST WISHES!!!

SALLY%26lt;3
OK, then the first thing is to get a boyfriend of your own so then you can talk to him ...and more...enough nobody will worry.



I'd say you may flirt a bit but it might be more that you are comfortable talking to boys. Quite often young girls don't think they know how to talk to a boy and get all freaked. When they see you they think you must be flirting when actually it is talking.



Next when it is some guy you are not wanting to flirt with first thing is to not touch. Are you touching them...innocently...hugging them? That can be thougth of as a flirt.



Try these things and life should be good.

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