How would you handle this?

Girl meets boy. Both have flirted in the past with others. Girl stops flirting once a relationship is established. Boy continues flirting. Boy allows 3 other women on 4 different occasions to interfere with relationship. Flirting not cheating. Girl cries, tells boy that it hurts. On each occasion boy says he is done and wont do it again. Then boy makes comments to 2 other women that insinuate that he is not happy in relationship. BUT tells girl he was kidding and its just his sense of humor. Girl wants this to work but is realizing slowly that boy just isn't doing what needs to be done. Boy swears up and down that he loves girl and girl feels it when they are together. The problem lies when they are apart. Boy has low self esteem and needs that ego boost that flirting gives him. Girl says she should be enough when they are together AND when they are apart.How would you handle this?
Boy and Girl should split up.How would you handle this?
Girl needs to realize that she deserves better and move on. Girl is making excuses to justify his behavior instead of realizing that all behavior is a choice and boy chooses to flirt with other girls and tell them that he is unhappy in the relationship. Boy's behavior is due to his immaturity and lack of character and not low self-esteem.



Girl can do better. By staying with boy, she volunteers to have a boy who doesn't care that his inappropriate behavior is hurtful to her.



Woman deserves a man.
girl should most def be enough when they are apart! girl should tell boy where to go, and maybe when he see's what he is missing he might start to act like a man, not a boy
Don't make excuses for someone treating you badly. Get rid of boy, and free yourself to meet a man.



Good luck.
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I would handle it by moving it over to the Singles %26amp; Dating section. This has nothing to do with weddings.
girl need to realize she deserves better and needs to dump boy.

boy is to immature and wants to have his cake and eat it too (he wants you when your there, but when your not he wants others)



dump him please :)
this girl dumps that boy and leaves flaming bag of dog poop at his front door, rings bell and runs away.
He's playing you, he is far too superficial to have any deep relationship with anyone at this time, move on to more promising and more mature people.

EDIT: Please ignore SUZ123, she has a huge stick up her butt and is very rude.
Flirting may not be cheating, but it IS very disrespectful.



And if he's unhappy in the relationship, he should address it directly, not share this information with others.



In other words, Boy doesn't get what being in a relationship is about. Boy will never learn as long as he suffers no consequences. Therefore, Girl should realize she deserves better and dump this loser. Girl cannot make Boy see the error of his ways, because it's something he needs to come to terms with himself. Girl should not waste her time trying any longer, because when Girl is in a good relationship, she'll see that it is nowhere near this much work.
He's done too much to break down the trust in this relationship. I've seen this same thing happen to two different good friends. One friend hung on for years, but the problem was always the same and the relationship eventually ended horribly. The other friend put up with it for a couple months, then finally said, ';Enough,'; and walked away.



I'm sorry he's doing this, but it's not a healthy pattern and it won't stop until you walk away.
Your relationship is based solely on convenience. Boy loves being around you and calling you his girl when it is convenient for him. When it's not, he has no problem replacing you, without taking your feelings into consideration. It is time for you to move on, because boy will never appreciate you the way he should.
I think it's just his personality. If it's too hard for you to accept then you have to move on. Don't tell yourself he'll change because he won't. You either accept it and never bring it up again or don't accept it and move on. That's a very simple answer, but it's easier said than done...I know.

Setting some boundries might help. Tell him when his flirting makes you uncomfortable (like when flirting becomes physical). Maybe if he knows what would upset you he would not do that in front of you out of respect. If he won't he's not worth it.